I was reading your articles on stripteasing and reading all that was really helpful. I've stripteased for my husband once, and it was my very first time ever! I didn't know what I was doing, well, I kind of did but since it was my first time, I was kind of cramming on what to do next. How do I gain the confidence and comfortability of doing all these? I was really scared the first time, I was really nervous because I've never done that my entire life! I really want to please my husband and impress and make it something he will be thinking about for the next week or two. Please help me. I still am not sure on how to start and how to move along flawlessly. Is it best, by the way, to wear something like buttoned shirts for a slower teasing? Thanks for your time.

Anne

Dear Anne,

Thank you for writing. Here is my suggestion:

Start by choosing a room where you will feel comfortable. Set your husband on a stool or a chair with his back to your entrance. Do not set him on a sofa where he will get lost in the furniture. Make sure he is sitting in a place where you can get to him. Start the music (your choice of whatever gets you in the right mood!). Come up from behind him and put your hands on his back or touch him in some way that you like to touch him.

Now that you have his attention, stand still and stop "dancing". Move from the middle of your body and stand in one place. Never mind your feet or moving "flawlessly". Move with your feet in a comfortable position. Start movements like a wave....waves coming out from your body, starting at your hips...waves emanating from your center, keeping your feet still. Stay really close to your husband, about arm length. Eye contact and facial expression are very important.

Get really close. Don't stand back and make it a performance. Make it interactive and have your husband be part of it. A performance in the house is not the same as a performance in public. There is no real need to perform. It is not a production. It is an intimate time with your husband. Touch him, look at him and talk to him. Let him participate. Let him undo the buttons (yes, button clothing works really well!). Let him slide your shirt off. Let him hold on to the articles of clothing and let him pull them off!

Have fun. Don't worry about pleasing him. Trust me, he will love it! And more importantly, so will you!

Tony Avanti

Hi, how are you?

My partner has asked me to strip for him, but I have never stripped before. I feel self-concious about it. He has been a stripper before, and I want to impress him. Can you give me some more tips on how to really blow him away? Thanks so much. Have a great day!!!

JS

Dear JS,

First of all don't be intimidated by your partners experiences. He has never experienced you before! Your strongest abilities are the ones that you carry with you everyday and that attracted you partner to begin with. Just follow the basics and don't ask for a critique when the music stops. Now I offer you a mind blower. The key is intimacy. The most erotic performance I've ever seen was by a dancer who re-enacted a private sexual moment completely oblivious of the men seated around her table. She was completely lost in the touch and caress of her own hands. The tension she created in that room was palpable. When the music changed she opened her eyes . I chanced to be the first in her line of sight to be solicited for a tip. My face flushed severely! When you open your eyes and approach him with you lustfull gaze, then kiss him wantingly. He'll be blown away!

Tony Avanti

Dear Must I Be In Shape,

Listen, Hot Stuff, I?ll bet that there is some part of your body that is shaped perfectly! But this isn?t a beauty contest. It is about you expressing your desire to arouse your husband and to show him how much you want to be with him. Don?t think of your striptease dance as a show. Think of it as a way to be intimate with your mate. But if you must, you can choose to keep the confidence-busting parts of your body covered and highlight only the oh-baby parts! Keep that voluptuous lower half of yours wrapped up tight in dark stockings, garters and panties? or? don?t give up the luscious illusion that wonder bra gives you. Just remember that most important is to get close and personal. Try putting a tiny smear of his favorite perfume on your best attribute and no where else. Then tease him with a whiff and make him beg for more.
Have fun!

Tony Avanti

Dear Help Me,

Performance anxiety is nothing new in the entertainment industry. You would be shocked to know just how many big name professionals become fiercely ill just before a performance. But the show must go on! Now, let?s make tupac proud and start like this.
First, I am going to assume you aren?t nervous in your boyfriend?s arms. Do you remember the scene in the movie Flash Dance where a dancer is sitting across the chair with her knees up, her back arched and her head way back? That pose is probably the most seductive and vulnerably inviting in the business. I want you to begin your dance in this pose, on your boyfriend?s lap, with one of his arms supporting your back and his other hand over your body. Move subtly to the music and when you get up stay in contact with him. Invite his touch. Move around him, always touching some part of your body with his. Let him help you with clothes. Don't stand back and fear his judgement. Stay close and intimate. If you really want to spice it up talk to him while you dance. Tell him what you like about making love to him. Tell him the way he makes you feel when he does that certain something! Ask him what he likes. You might not have to worry about dancing at all!

Have fun! You are going to be hot!

Sincerely,
Tony Avanti