Forgotten Princess: Sounds like your wife has probably changed what she was (is) looking for over the past 22 years. You're probably not getting a "straight" answer, for the reason she might believe some part of the truth may hurt your feelings!

When I first got married, I wanted to be able to have all the sex I wanted without the nagging morality of "doing it out of wedlock." That's how my husband got me- "How would you like to do this EVERY day?" After a couple of years, I wanted something more than a "stud." I wanted a man who could be commited, and secure within our relationship. I've been divorce for over 10 years now. At the elderly age of 35, I am now looking for a man who has a sense of humor, is easy-going, comfortable with the amount of money I make (secure within himself) has never hit a woman (other than his sister when they were both in elementary school) and WANTS to be part of a pair.

I know I can go it alone- any man in my life at this point is a luxury. A lot of women in my age range feel this way- we know we can provide for ourselves, and we don't need MRS. to validate us. (therapy talk.) Having a MRS. is like getting air conditioning in your car for free. You don't really need it, because you can just roll down the windows. But, if it comes standard on the car, or as part of a promotion- you'll take it.

Try asking your wife what she wants in a man right now. In 2002. After 22 years of marriage. Use "I" statements (chicks dig "I" statements.) You could say something like-- "I understand your thoughts and opinions about me have changed over the years. I'd feel better about our relationship if I knew what you value at this point in time about me." Yeeha- you'll get some talking going on with this. Make sure you're listening. . .

DOES HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A LADY THATS OLDER, DIVORCED, AND WITH CHILDREN MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT FOR YOU MEN OUT THERE WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED OR DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN?
I FIND IT DIFFICULT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE CHILDREN. I DONT WANT CHILDREN BUT I MUST GET ON WITH THE CHILDREN BETTER.

DO YOU GUYS HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM??????

STEVE LUTON BEDS UK

Lou in Detroit area: yes, kids always add a new dimension to any relationship. And it is usually more complicated, sometimes difficult, always a consideration. If you aren't into kids then you should end the relationship now.

Jim: If you don't want children then don't waste her time or your time.

Steve says: You have to think of the following: How old is the child. Male or Female? How much attention do you pay it, in comparison to the mother? Are you allowed to tell the child off? Probably not? I think it would be best to cut the losses now.
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?: Why are you asking people you don't know? Why not ask her?

S81 says: If you aint gonna talk about it, it aint gonna work. God give me strength, I dont have many relationships, but thats worse that dangling a neon sign in front your face saying shag me PPplllllllleeeeeeeeaaaaaassssssseeeeeeeeee

Hi,

Let me start with a little background: I was working at a company on a contract basis, and part of the job entailed assigning work to temps reorganizing a warehouse. One young woman ( I am 44, she was 19 ) was working part-time to suppliment her college stipend from her father. This woman and I hit it off and began car pooling. I told her that if I had been twenty four, this would be a different story. A day or so later, she told me that she would be interestedin a sexual relationship, but that it would have to be understood that it was temporary, that school and work were keeping her busy, and that dating was a hassle, so if I were interested in sex for the sake of sex, she could arrange that, but we had to agree not to think in terms of a long-term relationship. This was fine by me and lasted just a short time, about three weeks, before met a guy at party and decided to hook up with him. The question is this: now that I know that this type of "booty call" relationship is sometimes possible with women, I am looking for a similar relationship as I am not looking to marry again, but this situation was one I just stumbled into, is it something that women seek? How often does this happen? How does a guy approach a woman for this type of relationship? etc?

D.J.

Fogotten Pricness: Your young lady reminds me of myself, 16 years ago! I, too, had a great physical relationship with a 40-year old man. . .he was so great, if he called me today for a "booty call" I'd drop whatever I was doing and show up at his place! Without panties, of course!

Yes, there are a LOT of women out there who only want sex. No relationship, other than to come over and have wild, freaky circus sex with you. The internet is the best place to find such a gal. I'd caution you about having your lady friend at your home, for safety's sake- spring for the nice hotel. Younger chicks dig the older guy who's willing to drop some cash on a nice hotel room. Worked for me.

Best of luck!

Snaggin' The Shag: Your best bet is the net. You know, there are sites where that is ALL people want. Otherwise, you might try the Personals. You can clearly state what you want, and see what's out there. Sounds like a rather cold existence, though. Good luck.

Marion: some women seek this kind of relationship but I wouldn't approach anyone with the idea! Your audience is pretty small.

One man's response: You sad git is all I can say. If you are now divorced and have not worked it out you never will. This girl of 19 is trying to shag as many as she can. Your just another notch on her door, bed, car, garden, or where ever you did it.